May Events at the Center

Thu, May 1 2008

Media Contact

Keisha Bush, Publications Manager (212) 620-7310 X227, kbush@gaycenter.org

Cathy McElrath Renna, Managing Partner, Renna Communications (917) 757-6123, cathy@rennacommunications.com

Highlights (see full listings below for details)

Advocacy

Queer Justice League: Safety, Harassment, and the LBGT Community, 5/1

The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center Presents: A Public Policy Community Education Forum: The Next 25 Years: The Center, Our Communities and The Movement, 5/5

Culture, Arts and Appearances

Author Andrea Askowitz in Conversation with writers Linda Villarosa, Karin Cook, Louise Sloan and Rose Arce, 5/13

Terrance Dean and Hip-Hop’s Gay Sub-Culture, 5/14

William N. Eskridge, Jr., author of Dishonorable Passions: Sodomy Laws in America, 5/15

Center Voices & GMSMA present: The Gil Kessler Lecture Series featuring Guest Lecturer George McGeorge, 5/20

The Center is proud to co-sponsor: “Pink & Bent: An Exhibition of Art by Queer Women”, 5/20

Center Voices & Gay Asian Pacific Islander Men of New York presents: Gay or Asian? 5/22

The Center is proud to co-sponsor: “Pink & Bent: An Exhibition of Art by Queer Women” 5/20 – 6/28

Health

Meth Movie Night: Is the Meth /Sex/ HIV Problem Over for Gay Men in New York? 5/20

Center CARE’s Gender Identity Project, 5/21

SAGE, Village Care & Center Orientation presents: LGBT Senior Health Fair, 5/22

Transgender Health Fair, 6/4

Support & Spirituality

Center Orientation presents ENERGY: Managing it, harnessing it’s power, and attaining what you want for your life, 5/27

Social Life

Dance: 208 presents TRANS-PROM: 1983, 5/2

Dance: 208 presents Cinco de Mayo, 5/3

3rd Annual Bear Flea Market and Social, 5/4

Dance 208 presents: Fur Ball, 5/17

Youth and Family

Youth Enrichment Services (YES) presents Hip-Hop Throwback Open Mic, 5/6

OUTSpoken Training for Center Kids, 5/10

Visions of Pride Concert, 5/14 & 5/15

LGBT Foster Parenting and Adoption Expo — The Door’s Wide Open! 5/19

May Event Listings

Advocacy

THURSDAY, MAY 1, 8-10PM
Queer Justice League: Safety, Harassment, and the LBGT Community
Come bring your concerns, comments and questions on issues related to the New York City police Department. Newcomers are encouraged to attend, and enjoy free refreshments. Joey Nelson 973.412.7743, changebuilders@msn.com, http://queer-justiceleague. blogspot.com/.

MONDAY, MAY 5, 6–9PM, ROOM 301
The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center Presents: A Public Policy Community Education Forum: The Next 25 Years: The Center, Our Communities and The Movement
Join us for an event to celebrate the 25th Anniversary of the Center. This forum will explore emerging policy issues and frameworks, and envision the next 25 years of community and movement building. Participating panelists will include Terry Boggis, Interim Director of Public Policy and Director of the
Center’s family program; Amber Hollibaugh, Senior Strategist, National Gay and Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF); Andy Marra, People of Color Media Strategist; Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD); and RJ Thompson, National Campaign & Advocacy Manager at the Center. (212)-620-7310, rmartinez@gaycenter.org. Free and Open to the Public.

SUNDAY, MAY 18, 2PM, FREE
American Veterans for Equal Rights NY 2008 Pride Awards
Please join the American Veterans for Equal Rights as we celebrate the dedication of the following honorees to LGBT issues: The Honorable Hiram Monserrate, Chairman of the New York City Council Committee on Veterans, The Lesbian and Gay Big Apple Corps, WWII Veteran Elmer Lokkins and Gus Archilla, together 63 years and Tony Breton, Secretary of the American Veterans For Equal Rights New York. Your donations will help American Veterans for Equal Rights NY continue to serve the needs of LGBT American Veterans and advocate the repeal of the Don’t Ask Don’t Tell policy. For more info go to www.averny.tripod.com.

FRIDAY, MAY 23, 8-10PM
MACT’s Discussion of Health Care Policy
Following up on the showing of Michael Moore’s film “SICKO” on May 16th, the multiracial gay men’s organization Men of All Colors Together/NY will continue the discussion of health care policy and the United States’ health care system. Suggested contribution: $5.00. 908. 289.3714, fire.press@verizon.net, www.mactny.org.

Culture, Arts and Appearances

TUESDAY, MAY 6, 8-10PM
Center Library Book Discussion Group
The discussion today centers around “The Exquisite Corpse” by Alfred Chester. In forty-nine brief, highly cinematic chapters, we meet a series of twisted but sincere searchers--Tomtom Jim and his naked, hungry family; Mary Poorpoor and her utterly “otherly” baby; angry John Doe and his sex slave, James Madison--each in flight from despair. As one surreal episode morphs into the next, these searchers change shape and their journeys, names and identities come and go, storylines and desires intertwine, all with the quick illogic of a dream. Voted #78 on the Publishing Triangle’s list of best lesbian and gay fiction books. http://www.howardwill.com/BookClub.htm.

THURSDAY, MAY 8, 8-10PM
Gay & Lesbian Reading Group: Plato’s Symposium
Everyone is welcome to join in this discussion of LGBT experience as described through contemporary and classical novels, plays, poetry, and non-fiction. Contact Julio at 212.945.0709 or Jim at jclark@jclarkmedia.com, jclarkmedia.com/gaybooks.

FRIDAY, MAY 9, 7:30-10:30PM
Contra Dance Party
Ever done a “box-the-gnat”? How about a “swat-the-flea”? Lively American folk dance with live music by Brazen Hussies. Each dance taught and prompted by Tori Barone. No partner or experience needed. Everyone is welcome. Never do-si-did it? Come do-si-do! $12. Brooks 347.275.7983, Carol 718.972.3191, www.lcfd.org/nyc.

MONDAY, MAY 12, 6-8PM
Seminars in the City: Larger than Life: Codes of Gender and Desire in Opera
What is it about opera that gay men and lesbians love? Much ink has been spilled addressing this question, and this series of seminars will try to find some answers, both exploring some of the literature that claims opera as a distinctly queer art form, and analyzing the operas themselves. ASL interpretation can be provided if requested 10 or more working days prior to the event. To RSVP and obtain a course reading packet contact CLAGS: 212.817.1955, clags@gc.cuny.edu, www.clags.org.

TUESDAY, MAY 13, RECEPTION 6PM, PROGRAM 7PM, $10
Center Voices & Center Kids presents
Author Andrea Askowitz in Conversation with writers Linda Villarosa, Karin Cook, Louise Sloan and Rose Arce
Come hear author Andrea Askowitz read from her new book, My Miserable, Lonely Lesbian Pregnancy, a funny, whiny, all-too-real account of one girl’s true adventure in maternity. From finding a great donor who turns out to be shooting blanks (‘’I was a lesbian with male fertility problems’’) through all-day morning
sickness and graduation into ‘’fat-girl underwear,’’ Andrea’s life reads like an antidote to sugar-sweet pregnancy guides and memoirs. In week 8, her sense of smell becomes so strong that she can tell what
deodorant people are wearing. In week 28, she plans a pity party, complete with black-only dress code and a violin player. Joining her in conversation are lesbian moms and writers Karin Cook (What Girls Learn), Louise Sloane (Knock Yourself Up: No Man? No Problem – A Tell-all Guide to Becoming a Single Mom), and Linda Villarosa (The Black Parenting Book). Moderated by Center Kids Director Terry Boggis.

WEDNESDAY, MAY 14, 7PM, FREE
Center Voices presents
Terrance Dean and Hip-Hop’s Gay Sub-Culture
A riveting memoir, Hiding In Hip Hop, uncovers a hidden and well-known unspoken secret. Deep within the confines of Hip-Hop is a prominent gay sub-culture. A world that industry insiders are keenly aware of, but choose to ignore. From the testosterone of men striving to be on top and in control, to the “by any means necessary” bravado in an industry that thrives on power, homosexuality is a reality at nearly
every level of Hip-Hop. Hiding In Hip Hop is a heartfelt sojourn of a young man searching for self,
love, and sexual identity in the most homophobic places – the black family, community, church, and Hip Hop. Dean takes readers on an emotional rollercoaster ride as he becomes romantically involved with some of Hollywood’s and Hip Hop’s elite, and into an underground world of down low brothers, sex parties, and love starved celebrities. Struggling to find a place for himself in a homophobic culture, Dean’s compelling story is one of hope, love, and in spite of everything, coming to terms with one’s self and being a catalyst for change and empowerment in the game of Hip-Hop.

THURSDAY, MAY 15, 6PM, $15
Center Classics presents: Classic Opera
This first installment of the Center Classics series will explore Italian operatic scenes from the Baroque period to the 20th Century. The chosen works include excerpts of Handel, Mozart, Rossini, Bellini, Donizetti, Verdi, Mascagni and Puccini, and will contrast “light” and “dark” (chiaroscuro) musical settings from each of the significant periods of the Italian operatic repertoire. The program features a group of young, professional singers who are currently active in the local operatic community. Highlights of the program include excerpts from Il Barbiere di Siviglia, Così fan Tutte, Anna Bolena, Cavalleria Rusticana and Madama Butterfly. For more information about the Classic Opera Series go to www.gaycenter.org

THURSDAY, MAY 15, RECEPTION 6PM, PROGRAM 7PM, $10
Center Voices presents
William N. Eskridge, Jr., author of Dishonorable Passions: Sodomy Laws in America
William N. Eskridge, Jr., is John A. Garver Professor of Jurisprudence at Yale Law School. His research and writings provided a foundation for the landmark Supreme Court ruling of Lawrence v. Texas (2003), which invalidated consensual sodomy laws. He is the coauthor (with Darren Spedale) of Gay Marriage: For Better or for Worse? and author of Gaylaw: Challenging the Apartheid of the Closet. From the Pentagon to the wedding chapel, there are few issues more controversial today than gay rights. As William Eskridge persuasively demonstrates in Dishonorable Passions, there is nothing new about this political and legal obsession. The American colonies and the early states prohibited sodomy as the “crime
against nature,” but rarely punished such conduct if it took place behind closed doors.

FRIDAY, MAY 16, 8-10:30PM
MACT Screens Michael Moore’s Film “SICKO”
The multiracial gay men’s organization Men of All Colors Together/NY will view Michael Moore’s controversial film “SICKO”—a scathing indictment of the United States’ health care system. A discussion of health care policy will follow, which will continue on the following Friday (May 23). This issue is vital to all gay people, not only because of the threat of AIDS, but simply because we, like other citizens, need more and more health care as we grow older. Suggested contribution: $5.00. 908.289.3714, fire.press@verizon.net, www.mactny.org.

SATURDAY, MAY 17, 1-3PM
Queer Black Cinema Presents: QBC Classics
This month QBC pays tribute to Marlon Riggs, one of the first Black-American filmmakers who celebrated Black culture and gay male sexuality, while exposing homophobia and racism. Help celebrate the long awaited DVD release of “Tongues Untied” along with a light brunch and networking. Screening includes trailers and shorts from emerging Black LGBTQ filmmakers, followed by “Tongues Untied.” QBC ReelTALK discussion with special invited guest panel and host will follow, covered by QBC TV. All are welcome to attend regardless of your sexual orientation, race or gender. You must RSVP at info@queerblackcinema.org, subject line: QBC Classics. Suggested donation $6/$10 at the door. www.queerblackcinema.org.

SUNDAY, MAY 18, 1-2:30PM
SAL Book Discussion Group
This lesbian-only book group is always welcoming of new members who are interested in discussing classic and contemporary lesbian literature. Today’s book: “Oranges Are Not The Only Fruit” by Jeannette Winterson. http://groups.yahoo.com/SalBookGroup.

TUESDAY, MAY 20, RECEPTION 6PM, PROGRAM 7PM, $10
Center Voices & GMSMA present: The Gil Kessler Lecture Series
Guest Lecturer George McGeorge
Join us as we present the first Gil Kessler Lecture Series celebrating the important contributions Gil
Kessler has made to New York’s lgbt community. He is a founder of Black Conference and former
Chairman of the Board of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF). He has been a member of GMSMA (Gay Male S/M Activists) since 1983, including seven terms as President and over twenty years conducting workshops and seminars. He created the GMSMA Archives in 1989, and is still the official Archivist; the files and photos through 2003 have been donated to the Leather Archives and Museum in Chicago. He was an NYC math teacher/administrator for thirty years, is a classical pianist, a square dancer, and the teacher on a series of videos on SM-101. Tonight’s lecturer, George McGeorge is a founder of Black Rose, a well-known and respected support, education, and social group for adults interested in “the many different expressions of power in love and play in the context of caring relationships.” He is an officer of the Leather Leadership Conference and a former Chairman of the Board of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF).

TUESDAY, MAY 20, 2008 THROUGH SATURDAY, JUNE 28, 2008
OPENING RECEPTION: MONDAY, MAY 19, 2008 6:00PM – 8:00PM
The Center is proud to co-sponsor: “Pink & Bent: An Exhibition of Art by Queer Women”
As the Center celebrates its 25th Anniversary we are proud to partner with the Leslie Lohman Gallery in presenting The Great Lesbian Group Show. This exhibition is a celebration of the unique and important contributions that women make to our community. Pink & Bent explores topics of masculine/feminine, gender roles, self-identity, and self-representation by depicting ourselves, friends, and lovers and celebrates the diversity and visibility of queer women artists. Submission details are available at www.gaycenter.org or www.leslielohman.org.

TUESDAY, MAY 20, 7-9PM
Meth Movie Night: Is the Meth /Sex/ HIV Problem Over for Gay Men in New York?
If you got all fired up on 2-28-08 at “Staph, Bath and Beyond-A Community Forum on Bathhouses, MRSA and the Future of HIV Prevention for Gay Men in New York City” then you must come and bring a friend, to the follow-up forum, featuring guest speaker Dr. Frank Spinelli, this event is co-sponsored by all the “usual suspects.” Check out www.gaycenter.org for more details! Sponsored by: Abbot Virology

Tune in this month: Out at the Center
Airs, THURSDAY, MAY 22, 2008, 10PM, Time Warner 34 and 78 (digital), RCN 107 and 82 (digital) on Manhattan Neighborhood Network Airs TUESDAY, MAY 27, 6:30PM, Time Warner 35 and Cablevision 68 on Brooklyn Community Access TV or see it online at www.Gaycenter.Org/out
This edition of Out at the Center looks at the experiences of lesbian and gay seniors from Stonewall to the present day, the challenges of LGBT individuals who are imprisoned, HIV Risk for Black Men, Jonathan Ned Katz and a preview of the films coming up at NewFest – the New York LGBT Film Festival.

THURSDAY, MAY 22, 2008 RECEPTION 6PM, PROGRAM 7PM, $10
Center Voices & Gay Asian Pacific Islander Men of New York presents
Gay or Asian?
Four years ago, Details magazine published an offensive feature, “Gay or Asian?” that sparked nationwide protests. The Gay Asian and Pacific Islander Men of New York (GAPIMNY) responded to this article along with the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD) and the Asian American Journalist Association (AAJA) by demanding an apology from Editor-in-Chief Daniel Peres. In response to the outcry from the lgbt community the magazine issued an apology and more marking a defining moment of progress in the community. In celebration of “Asian American Heritage Month,” the Center and GAPMINY will feature a program, “Gay or Asian?” to discuss the evolution and progress of gay Asian and Pacific Islander men’s images in media and in society. Reception 6PM, Program 7PM.

FRIDAY, MAY 23, RECEPTION 6:30PM, FILM 7:30PM, $10
Lesbian Cinema Arts presents Robin’s Hood
A low-budget lesbian romance and adventure film involving a young woman who falls under the seductive charms of another, and together they embark on a crime spree. Robin is a disillusioned social worker living in the shadow of Sherwood Forest (a.k.a. Oakland, CA) who truly believes she can positively impact the world until frustrations at her job force her to rethink her life. Adventures lurk around the corner when a life of justifiable crime commences and an intense romance flourishes with poetic symmetry. As they “rob from the rich and give to the poor,” these outlaws fight racism, oppression and poverty from the corrupt police (à la Sheriff of Nottingham and King John). Love ignites and lines cross during an emanating whirlwind of passion and robbery that leads our heroines to danger. Set to a backdrop of hip-hop and the rhythms of the inner city, Robin’s Hood is a blue-collar fairy tale. Director Sara Millman’s debut feature, produced with funds raised in part through sidewalk sales and street donations in San Francisco’s Castro district, beautifully tackles everyday issues in an intriguing manner all under the watchful eyes of two pure romantics.

SATURDAY, MAY 24, 5-7PM
Moonfire Empowerment & Spirituality Network Presents: Illusion & Reality--Heal Your Present Through Your Past
Is what you see reality? Is the past the past, and the future the future? Why do we repeat negative patterns? How do we create our lives, and how can we make them the way we want them? These and other questions will be answered in this broad and revealing workshop. Facilitator Kev O’Kane is a highly-trained certified past life regression hypnotist, spiritual seeker and Cayce follower. He also teaches and conducts workshops in PLR for several national hypnosis organizations in N.Y.C. and throughout the U.S. All are welcome, $6.00. Amethyst 212.222.2467.

Health

FRIDAY, MAY 2, 8PM–12AM
Dance: 208 presents: TRANS-PROM: 1983
Come to the Gender Identity Project’s Annual Trans Prom and help us celebrate 25 years of the Center and 25 years of Trans community! This year’s theme is 1983, so dig those 80s clothes out of your closet (or your parents’ closet!). Our DJ will be spinning a mix of songs from the 80s and today! Come in Promwear, come in casual-wear, come in a limo or come on the A train....but just come! The Prom is open to ALL trans and gender non-conforming people, our partners, friends and allies! Ages 18 and over.

WEDNESDAY, MAY 21, 6- 8PM
Center CARE’s Gender Identity Project
A panel discussion with community members & providers addressing the personal and structural barriers to GYN care for the GNC community. The panel will address obstacles to quality health care, the “what and why” of GYN care, attempts at best practices by GYN providers, and how the GNC community can feel more empowered in accessing GYN services. Please call Chris Schiffelbein (x 294) or P. Swan (x242) with any questions. Free.

THURSDAY, MAY 22, 2-5PM
SAGE, Village Care & Center Orientation presents: LGBT Senior Health Fair
SAGE, Village Care & Center Orientation sponsor an LGBT senior health fair in Room 101 at the LGBT Community Center. Health screenings, information, food, entertainment, prizes. Free! Come one, come all. Meet your friends, hang out and make a day of it. For more information, call Ryan McNamara at 212-741-3592

FRIDAY, MAY 30 & AUGUST 29 7-10PM
Women of Color Game Night
Join us for a night of fun, games, raffle prizes and refreshments! Meet other women in a relaxed environment.

TUESDAY, JUNE 3 (SPANISH), 6-7:30PM
TUESDAY, JULY 8 (ENGLISH), 6-7:30PM
Nostalgía
Discussion on coping with the sadness of missing family and friends from one’s native country. Hablaremos de como podemos bregar con la falta de familía y amistades de nuestros países de origin. Para mas informacíon contacte a George at 212-620-7310 x291.

WEDNESDAY, JUNE 4, 5:30 - 7:30PM
Transgender Health Fair
Free health screenings, trans-specific health information, and health insurance enrollment. Meet trans-affirming healthcare providers and other community members.

Information, Education & Career

No events this month

Support & Spirituality

FRIDAY, MAY 2, 8-10PM
Exploring Relationships Discussion Group
“The people I meet in the bars, discos and gyms usually want just one thing -- sex! How can I go about meeting serious relationship-minded people? Do I have to move to Ohio?” Tonight, share your experiences, teach, and learn with other men and women in a safe space. The doors close soon after 8PM, so please don’t be late. $10. 718.473.0702, http://psychology.meetup.com/70.

FRIDAY-SUNDAY, MAY 2-4, 2008
Sexual Compulsives Anonymous: “Sober in the City”
Do you use sex as a way to escape from feelings such as loneliness, anger, self-hatred as well as joy? Do you find intimacy with anyone impossible or find that you develop unhealthy dependency on others? This weekend roundup is for people who feel that they may have issues with sexually compulsive behavior. The weekend includes workshops, discussions, fellowship, speakers and a variety show. SCA is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other that they may find a common solution to their problems. We are not here to repress our sexuality, but to find healthy ways to express it. The workshops are run by members who have worked the 12 steps of recovery. Log on to www.sca-recovery.org for more information and registration. Suggested $35.00 donation includes all the events, breakfast, Sunday brunch & variety show.

SATURDAY, MAY 10, 10AM-4PM
The Gay Spirit: Exploring our Full Potential for Intimacy
This six-hour experiential workshop is designed for gay men who want to relate to other gay men more intimately in order to develop more satisfying, creative, supportive relationships. You will explore exercises which will assist you in being more present and teach you to listen empathically to others so that your communication involves the emotional and spiritual as well as the physical. The workshop involves journaling, visualization, meditation, play and sharing with the other group participants. $45, reservations suggested. Paul A. Zakrzewski, 212.864.0461.

SATURDAY, MAY 10, 5-7PM
Moonfire Empowerment & Spirituality Network: Love, Sexuality & Relationships
Join Lorraine Gibney (poet, artist, and teacher) and the participants of Moonfire, for an interesting, informative, lively and passionate open discussion exploring the dynamics of a healthy relationship. All are welcome. $6.00. Amethyst 212.222.2467.

WEDNESDAY, MAY 21 8-10PM
Polyamorous NYC: The Top Ten Survival Skills for Polyamorous People
What skills do successful polyamorous relationships require? How can polyamorous people best navigate the complex terrain of jealousy and new relationship energy? At this Polyamorous NYC meeting, nationally recognized polyamorous expert, Nan Wise, will discuss ten skills which are essential to sustainable partnerships and how these skills can be effectively utilized in polyamory. Nan Wise is LCSW, ACSW, BCD and creator of The Desire Curve: a simple and elegant tool for understanding desire. Ms. Wise has spent the past decade providing relationship coaching and psychotherapy for individuals and couples practicing alternative lifestyles. $10. 212.543.9494, www.poly-nyc.com, info@poly-nyc.com.

SATURDAY, MAY 24, 9:30AM-4:30PM
Resentment Into Grace Workshop: A Day On Love and Action with Jim Roi
Bill Wilson wrote: “Resentment is the number one offender… From it stem all forms of spiritual disease. When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physically.” Nietzsche wrote: “Resentment is the narcotic we cannot help desiring to deaden pain of any kind…We make evildoers out of our friends, wives, children and whoever else stands closest to us. I Suffer? Someone must be to blame!” Spiritual disease is a hydra! It has many necks—but only one source--resentment! If you are ready to go for the jugular, bring your symptoms and your resentments to this workshop. $60. 212.529.0636, jimroi@aol.com.&

TUESDAY, MAY 27, 2008, PROGRAM 7PM
Center Orientation presents ENERGY: Managing it, harnessing it’s power, and attaining what you want for your life
Everything is energy and energy is contagious. Both in business and in our personal lives, if we are constantly on the run, feeling pressured from every angle, then it’s only a matter of time before we begin to let opportunities pass us by, believe we’re not living up to our fullest potential or, worse, begin to break down emotionally and physically. Our thoughts, which come from our global belief system (meaning how we view ourselves, others and the world at large) create and trigger our energy level. Our perceptions and how we view everything become deeply ingrained by this process. This affects our relationships, our ability to attract a partner, our ability to succeed in our careers, jobs and businesses. But there is an answer and a way to break the cycle. Learn how. For more information about Mark Schall, visit www.markschall.com

Social Life

SATURDAY, MAY 3, 9PM, $10
DANCE: 208 PRESENTS CINCO DE MAYO
Grab some lemons and a few Coronas, and come out for Dance: 208’s Cinco de Mayo celebration and dance party. Enjoy the Latin-tinged house beats and dance off all that hot sauce!

SUNDAY, MAY 4, 2:30-5:30PM
3rd Annual Bear Flea Market and Social
Bear Cafe’s favorite spring event returns! Make room for pride visitors by selling off your chachkas, porn, CDs, crafts, books, and gently used clothing. To rent a table, contact: info@bearcafe.org. $5 general admission for all, plus a large bottle of a non-alcoholic beverage or an appetizer/ fruit/ cheese/ munchies/ dessert to share potluck-style. Free coffee and tea. 866.749.8180, info@bearcafe.org, www.bearcafe.org.

SATURDAY, MAY 10, 8-10PM
Qwik Dates for Ages 30s/40s Night
At this speed-dating event, you will meet lots of guys ages 30s-40s one-on-one for a series of three-minute dates, then get a free mingling period to meet anyone else in the room. Tell them which men you want a second date with, and minutes later you find out your matches. This is a great opportunity to meet guys for time-efficient face-to-face contact and see what kind of chemistry is there. It’s a lot of fun and could lead to meeting someone special! $20. 212.971.1084, www.qwikdates.com.

SATURDAY, MAY 10, 8-10PM
Dating Madness: Lesbians of Color & Friends Social/Dating Event
This structured, relaxed, fun dating event enables you to meet women in mini-dates Social Life Events and mini double-dates, have interesting conversations and exchange phone numbers. Run by a lesbian matchmaker/comedian, this trauma-free workshop assists you in making meaningful connections for friendship and romance. $20. Pay online to guarantee a spot. 212.989.8549, www.nyclavenderlounge.com.

SATURDAY, MAY 17, 6-9PM
Deep-Bear Dating
Led by Hernán Poza, LMSW, Deep Bear Dating is a dating event for the Bear community and their friends. Welcoming single Bears, Cubs, Chasers, Chubs, Osos, Bears of Color, Leather Bears, Muscle Bears, Otters, Polar Bears, Wolves, and their admirers. Deeper Dating is a personal growth workshop and an opportunity to meet other Bears/admirers committed to serious relationships and deeper values. Refreshments included.10% of profits donated to Pride For Youth. $20 online, $25 door, www.DeeperDating.com.

SATURDAY, MAY 17, 8-10PM
Date Bait for Professionals
Meet doctors, lawyers, teachers, business execs, and other career-minded men at this fun, structured, singles mixer. After meeting most of the guys in the room, you hand in a list of men you want to date, and the computer tells you your mutual matches. Internet hook-ups can only take you so far, and sometimes you need to meet men face-to-face for a chance at a relationship. Date Bait has been running gay singles events for eleven years--give it a try--you’ll probably get a date out of it! $20. 212.971.1084, ww.datebait.com.

SATURDAY, MAY 17, 9PM, $10
Dance 208 presents: Fur Ball
Music Frankie Knuckles Main Floor Mustache Garage Lounge DJ Man Parish Be warned…fur ahead! Join Dance: 208 as we celebrate everything furry and fuzzy. Furball is back and we got Frankie & Manny again! With DJ superstar Frankie Knuckles, who broke all Furball records for a NYC bear event last May, and DJ Man Parrish, who had the most successful fur lounge with Mustache Garage last November. So we thought we’d put them both together for the ultimate fur attack...and this time it goes till 2am! There are 2 floors of dancing, go-go bears, cheap beer, bear art, hangin’ in the garden, and warm warm fur... and over 700 furry friends... So leave the caves and shake it out! And it’s a fundraiser for the Center! Hosted by HX, NY Metrobears, Bear Cafe, A Bear’s Life, Bear411, bearwww.com, The Complete Bear, the Ultimate Bear Links, BearParty.com, Hotel Mark Twain (SF), Will Clark World, Mark Nelson Productions, and Max Scott Events! DJ Frankie Knuckles is a DJ legend and producer/remixer who is considered the Godfather of House music with famed residences at Chicago’s Warehouse, Sound Factory NYC, and around the world. DJ Man Parrish (Sperm, Mr. Black, Splash, The Cock) revives Mr. Black party Mustache Garage (Joe Fiore & Man Parrish’s hot NYC manly bear dance party) for the lounge, and is renowned for his tracks “Hip Hop Be Bop,” “Male Stripper” and being a dance music legend. WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? Cheap beer! Hot Guys! Go-Go Bears! Great sounds! Let the fur fly!

SUNDAY, MAY 18, 3-6PM
Mates Coffee House
Whether you’re lookin’ for new buddies, a date, or a (future) spouse, you’ll meet a variety of friendly, attractive men of all ages, races, sizes, types and interests here! The afternoon includes easy-listening music, quiet conversation, puzzles and games, plus non-alcoholic beverages and snacks. Note: This is the last Bear Café-Mates Coffee House of this season until October 5th. $5 for Bear Cafe members (with card), $10 for non-members, plus a large bottle of a nonalcoholic beverage or an appetizer/fruit/cheese/
munchies/dessert to share potluck-style. Free coffee and tea available. 866.749.8180, info@bearcafe.org, www.bearcafe.org.

FRIDAY, MAY 30, 8-10PM
Dating Madness: Gay Men 20s, 30s
Looking for a refreshing alternative to the bar scene and other overcrowded events? Tonight, at this exciting, non-intimidating dating/social event, you’ll meet lots of fabulous men who want to make meaningful connections for friendship or romance. Meet one on one in mini dates, meet in “double dating” groups of four with fun questions, and have relaxed conversation in groups based on areas of common interests. Chat during the free refreshment break. Run by a matchmaker/comedian. Pay online to guarantee a spot. $20. 212.989.8549, www.nyclavenderlounge.com.

FRIDAY, MAY 30 & AUGUST 29 7-10PM
Women of Color Game Night
Join us for a night of fun, games, raffle prizes and refreshments! Meet other women in a relaxed environment.

SATURDAY, MAY 31, 7-10PM
Deeper Dating for Men
This city is filled with single men trying to live their lives based on deeper values such as personal growth, spirituality, building family and community and/or recovery. This evening will be led by John Salvato. Following a brief meditation you’ll engage in a series of fun and enriching exercises that will enable you to meet other men, and share in more personal ways. Built into the evening will be the opportunity to exchange phone numbers with potential matches. Time Out New York calls Deeper Dating “The New-
Craze Dating Event”—come see for yourself! Refreshments included.10% of profits donated to Pride For Youth. $20 online, $25 door, www.DeeperDating.com.

SATURDAY, MAY 31, 8-10PM
Compatibility Game for Professionals
At this fun, revolutionary singles event, answer four questions about your interests, values, and lifestyle, and get assigned to four different groups of women who gave answers similar to yours. Also meet women one-on-one in a free mingling period. Finally, hand in a list of the ones you want to date, and minutes later you find out your mutual matches. It’s a unique way to meet women you are compatible with, thereby increasing your odds that a relationship could work. $20. 212.971.1084, www.compatgame.com.

SATURDAY, JUNE 28TH, 2008 6:00PM - 11:00 PM
Rapture On The River: A Woman’s Dance!
Event organizer and sponsor Heritage of Pride. For the first time ever the Center will be staffing a bar at RAPTURE ON THE RIVER: A WOMAN’S DANCE and we need volunteer bartenders! Be a part of New York Pride! Meet beautiful women, get involved and show your Pride. Please join us for the official NYC Pride Week Women’s Dance.Featuring the music of DJ Susan Levine Location: Pier 54, 13th St @ the West Side Highway - Hudson River Park. Tickets will be available May 1 to June 27, 2008
General Admission in advance $20, General Admission at the door @ $25, VIP Tickets 2 @ $40. All proceeds from Rapture on the River bar will benefit the Center.

Youth and Family

SUNDAY, MAY 4, 3PM, $15 ADULTS, $9 KIDS
A Cooking Class for the Whole Family
An LGBTQ Family Afternoon of Fun and Food, sponsored by Center Kids, in cooperation with the Jewish Community Center in Manhattan, the Rodeph Sholom Gay and Lesbian Concerns Committee, and Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE-NYC). Adults $15, kids $9 – includes cooking program, kids’ activities, babysitting and meal. JCC in Manhattan, 334 Amsterdam Ave. @76th St. Register online at www.jccmanhattan. org, or call 646-505-5708.

TUESDAY, MAY 6, 6:30-8:30PM, FREE
Youth Enrichment Services (YES) presents Hip-Hop Throwback Open Mic
Come share your beats, pop n’ lock, breakin’, graffi ti or sketch art and poetry or spoken word at our open mic event at the Center! Hosted by guest artists Regie Cabico, Rokafella, Yako and Baba Isreal. For more info contact Jennella at 212-620-7310. Youth event.

SATURDAY, MAY 10, 10AM-4PM, FREE
OUTSpoken Training for Center Kids
Families Learn how to speak out with strength and self-confidence on behalf of your family to legislators, the media, and within your children’s schools. Provided by the Family Equality Council (formerly Family Pride Coalition), the OUTSpoken training program emphasizes the power of parents and families telling
their stories to change hearts and minds. Don’t miss this extraordinary opportunity! Child care provided. PREREGISTRATION REQUIRED! To register, contact Terry Boggis, Center Kids Director,
212-620-7310, Terry@gaycenter.org

WEDNESDAY, MAY 14 and THURSDAY, MAY 15, 8PM
Visions Of Pride
A Concert with the Youth Pride Chorus, Directed by Wes Webb Wings Theater, 154 Christopher Street (b/w Greenwich St. and Washington St). Free tickets are available for youth (ages 13-21) by calling the YES Program at 212-620-7310 Ticket information: www.bapany.org or call 212-344-1777.
SATURDAY, MAY 17, 10:30AM-12:30PM, $20/FAMILY
Center Kids Family Play Day
This month, we’re tie-dying! Take advantage of this opportunity to let your kids try this messy activity without risking your own home! For further information, contact Ivy Belardo, IBelardo@gaycenter.org.

MONDAY, MAY 19, 6-8PM, FREE
LGBT Foster Parenting and Adoption Expo — The Door’s Wide Open!
Hear representatives of adoption agencies and city officials roll out the red carpet for LGBT prospective parents. Many New York City agencies are warm and welcoming and can help you realize your parenting dreams, or help match you to a young person to mentor. Come get answers to your questions.

About the Center

A beacon of hope for 29 years, the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center builds and supports our community through arts and culture, wellness and recovery, family services and life-saving youth programs designed to foster healthy development in a safe, affirming environment. The Center envisions a world where LGBT people will no longer face discrimination or isolation because of who we are or who we love. We offer a welcoming home to 300,000 visitors each year and we are committed to serving all LGBT people through a variety of programs, services and activities that are designed to meet existing and emerging needs.The Center is many things to many people. We invite you to experience our home at 208 West 13th Street in person and online at gaycenter.org

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May Events at the Center

Thu, May 1 2008